When Anxiety Gets Stuck

Some forms of anxiety become organised around a relentless search for certainty. You may find yourself repeatedly checking, researching, seeking reassurance, monitoring your body, analysing your thoughts or becoming preoccupied with a particular fear. This might involve repeatedly checking symptoms, searching the internet for answers, seeking reassurance from loved ones or professionals, mentally reviewing situations, monitoring physical sensations, body checking, mirror checking, comparing yourself to others, or trying to gain certainty about something that feels impossible to settle. For a moment, these behaviours can bring relief. Yet before long the uncertainty returns, and the cycle begins again.  

Many people arrive in therapy having already tried very hard to solve the problem. They have sought reassurance, searched for answers, monitored symptoms, analysed possibilities, avoided risks or tried to think their way out of distress. Often, they are exhausted. 

Many people describe feeling trapped in a constant state of monitoring – their thoughts, their bodies, their appearance, or the possibility that something important has been missed. 

Health anxiety, OCD and Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) can be deeply distressing experiences. They can consume enormous amounts of time, energy and emotional resources, gradually narrowing life around fear, vigilance and attempts to feel certain or in control. 

One of the cruellest aspects of these difficulties is how lonely they can become. Many people become experts at hiding just how much time and energy is devoted to checking, analysing, researching, monitoring, comparing or seeking reassurance. Therapy can provide a space where these experiences can be understood with compassion rather than judgement.

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I offer a free 20-minute initial consultation so we can discuss what is bringing you to therapy and whether working together feels the right fit.

How I Work

While health anxiety, OCD and BDD each have their own unique features, they often share something in common: an understandable attempt to protect ourselves from uncertainty, vulnerability or distress. 

For many people, the problem is not the original fear itself. The problem is that the mind becomes trapped in increasingly exhausting attempts to eliminate uncertainty altogether. 

There are several well-established and evidence-based treatments for conditions such as OCD, health anxiety and BDD, including Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP). Many people find these approaches enormously helpful, and where appropriate I fully support clients in accessing them. As an Integrative Psychotherapist, my work does not seek to replace these approaches but to offer an additional perspective that works deeply and is not time-limited. Alongside understanding the patterns that maintain anxiety in the present, we may also become curious about the emotional and relational experiences that give these fears their particular intensity and meaning. 

For some people, this involves exploring attachment patterns, significant life experiences, loss, trauma, perfectionism, responsibility, self-worth or longstanding beliefs about safety, vulnerability and control. The aim is not simply to understand where these fears came from, nor solely to manage symptoms in the here and now, but to bring both together in service of meaningful and lasting change.

Health Anxiety

Health anxiety is often misunderstood. 

Many people living with health anxiety have experienced genuine illness, medical uncertainty, frightening symptoms, loss, trauma or significant health experiences affecting themselves or those they love. The fear itself is often entirely understandable. 

The difficulty arises when understandable concern becomes caught in a cycle of symptom checking, repeated medical reassurance, internet searches, monitoring bodily sensations, scanning for signs of illness or trying to achieve certainty about health and wellbeing. What may begin as an attempt to feel safer can gradually become a source of ongoing distress. 

Together, we can explore not only the fears themselves, but also the emotional experiences and vulnerabilities that may be giving them life in the present.

OCD, Intrusive Thoughts & Compulsions

People living with OCD often describe feeling trapped in a battle with their own minds. Intrusive thoughts can feel frightening, disturbing or completely at odds with who someone believes themselves to be. Compulsions, whether visible or internal, often develop as understandable attempts to reduce distress or gain certainty. 

Compulsions may involve visible behaviours such as checking, reassurance-seeking, researching, cleaning or repeating actions. They can also be entirely internal, including mental reviewing, analysing, counting, praying, trying to “cancel out” thoughts or repeatedly seeking certainty. 

Unfortunately, the relief they provide is usually temporary. Therapy offers a space to explore the impact these experiences are having on your life, develop a deeper understanding of the anxiety beneath them and consider how you might begin relating differently to uncertainty, fear and control.

Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD)

Body dysmorphic concerns are often far more painful and consuming than people realise. 

Many individuals become preoccupied with aspects of their appearance that feel impossible to ignore. Significant amounts of time can become devoted to mirror checking, body checking, comparing appearance to others, seeking reassurance, camouflaging perceived flaws, avoiding photographs, avoiding social situations or researching cosmetic solutions. 

Yet despite enormous effort, lasting relief often remains elusive. Many people find that when one concern eases, another quickly takes its place. The focus shifts, expands or returns, leaving them trapped in an exhausting cycle of self-surveillance and self-criticism. 

Therapy can provide a compassionate space to understand these patterns more deeply and explore the emotional experiences, beliefs and fears that may lie beneath them.

Working Together

At the heart of this work is a simple but often difficult task: learning to develop a different relationship with uncertainty, vulnerability and distress. This does not mean eliminating fear altogether. 

Life inevitably contains uncertainty, loss, vulnerability and risk. Instead, therapy can help us understand what makes these experiences particularly difficult, what maintains the cycles of anxiety in the present, and how we might gradually create more flexibility, freedom and self-compassion. 

Together, we can explore both the origins of these fears and the ways they continue to shape your life today, helping you move towards a life that feels less dominated by anxiety and more connected to the things that matter most.

Experience and Training

Supporting people living with health anxiety, OCD, intrusive thoughts, body dysmorphic concerns and related forms of compulsive anxiety is something I feel passionate about.  

Alongside my Master’s training in Humanistic and Integrative Psychotherapy, I have undertaken additional professional training in understanding and working with these presentations. 

I am particularly interested in the ways anxiety, attachment, trauma, perfectionism, self-worth and relational experiences can interact to maintain cycles of fear, avoidance and control.

Useful Resources

If you would like to learn more about health anxiety, OCD, body dysmorphic disorder or related experiences, you may find the following resources helpful: 

•  NHS Health Anxiety – Information about health anxiety, common symptoms and available support.

•  OCD UK – A UK charity providing information, resources and support for people affected by OCD.

•  OCD Action – Information, advocacy and support for people living with OCD and related conditions.

•  NHS Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) – Information about OCD, treatment options and accessing support.

•  NHS Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) – Information about body dysmorphic disorder, symptoms and support options.

Many people find it reassuring to learn more about these experiences and to recognise that they are not alone. At the same time, information alone is not always enough to ease the distress these difficulties can create. 

Therapy can offer a space to move beyond understanding what is happening and begin exploring how you might relate differently to the fears, uncertainties and preoccupations that may have come to dominate daily life. 

If you’re wondering whether therapy could help, I offer a free initial consultation call. It’s an opportunity for us to talk about what is bringing you to therapy, answer any questions you may have, and get a sense of whether working together feels like the right fit.